Instead of thinking “What is this child doing wrong?” “What behavior needs correction?” “I should tell them so they can fix it.” Think...

Sometimes, equalizing behavior for PDA'ers can manifest in what I think of as “impossible demands.”  This is when the child (or adult!)...

Every conversation we have about a problem with another human being has the potential to be an exercise in perspective taking.  A person...

Your needs as a parent, teacher, spouse, friend–your needs matter too, and it is okay to say no!  But how we say no can be the difference...

One way we can proactively equalize is by pretending to be confused, startled, exasperated, outraged, embarrassed, etc, but playfully,...

Every teenager, regardless of neurotype, has an increased drive to prove their own autonomy, and increased autonomy awareness.  It’s a...

When my kids were 12 and 15, we were approved to become an unrestricted foster home for teens 12 and up through DCF.  When we received...

When I discovered Parent Effectiveness Training in 2016, a collaborative parenting system founded by Thomas Gordon (at around the same...

Most parents of PDA'ers eventually come to realize we can’t “make” our children do anything at all, because our children prove it to us,...

When we see through an autonomy focused lens, most interactions with children provide opportunities to help them either co-regulate or...