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Perspective Taking: Reducing Stress and Equalization Needs by Increasing Relational Equity
One of the first things I like to talk about in coaching sessions is to challenge my clients to shift to verbally reflecting the child's...
Keri Schouten
Apr 56 min read


How to say "no" by starting with "yes!"
Your needs as a parent, teacher, spouse, friend–your needs matter too, and it is okay to say no! But how we say no can be the difference...
Keri Schouten
Apr 52 min read


Proactive Equalizing with PDA'ers: “Power Games”
One way we can proactively equalize is by pretending to be confused, startled, exasperated, outraged, embarrassed, etc, but playfully,...
Keri Schouten
Apr 55 min read


"Rules" are Largely Irrelevant in Collaborative Relationships
When my kids were 12 and 15, we were approved to become an unrestricted foster home for teens 12 and up through DCF. When we received...
Keri Schouten
Apr 54 min read


"Whose Problem Is It?" Leveraging the Power of Collaborative Communication
When I discovered Parent Effectiveness Training in 2016, a collaborative parenting system founded by Thomas Gordon (at around the same...
Keri Schouten
Apr 45 min read


Rejecting the "I know what's best for you" Mindset: a Paradigm Shift
What decisions do we really need to make for our kids? So many decisions we think are necessary as parents are in actuality fear based:...
Keri Schouten
Apr 34 min read
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