Keri Schouten

PDA'ers are like a rubber band, and there is only so much stretch in a day. Overstretching one day leads to less stretch the next, and the next, and it’s cumulative. The more we're forced to exceed our capacity in a variety of ways, the smaller our capacity gets. Sometimes all the stretch we have for the day is used up in one place, and there is nothing left for anywhere else. So maybe a child seems to do well in school, but they fall apart when they get home, and we get restraint collapse,...

Instead of thinking “What is this child doing wrong?” “What behavior needs correction?” “I should give them information about what I...

Sometimes, equalizing behavior for PDA'ers can manifest in what I think of as “impossible demands.”  This is when the child (or adult!)...